Nigel has recently learned about the gift of hospitality.
Now Nigel isn’t the most social person on the planet, in fact I prefer the term ‘socially retarded’ to describe Nigel.
But that’s probably a small part of it.
Nigel is myself. Fell free to do that too! Being yourself. It’s probably not a good idea to fake something else anyway.
Nigel sees not being yourself as a form of deception. Do you pretend to have opinions you have absolutely no interest in? Do you pretend to have a personality that isn’t even yours? Do you have an opinion/belief/idea ect that no-one knows about because you have hidden it and never mentioned it? Congrats! You’re lying! And some people don’t appreciate lying in relationships, including work, social, romantic ect. If it gets to the point where you have to make these lies in a relationship, it is a good sign the relationship won’t last too long.
If you lie like this, how are we supposed to know who you are?
One way to ‘find yourself’ is to be honest. Fakes and wannabes don’t tend to make a good impression.